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Generally most people have been nice... even had people in Morrisons offer to carry my bags and leave their till.
However I have to agree that some people are damn right rude. As far as letting heavy doors swing into my bump and not even glancing when I give a yelp. Ppl barge past and say 'excuse me' in like a get out the bloody way tone.
I just dont get it. We're not mega celebrities but we're carrying another human being. Maybe I was brought up decently but I would always give up my seat, hold doors open and be polite to anyone older etc. But definitely to an expectant mother.
Some ppl are horrid. Good thanks to all the nice people in this world. xxx
However I have to agree that some people are damn right rude. As far as letting heavy doors swing into my bump and not even glancing when I give a yelp. Ppl barge past and say 'excuse me' in like a get out the bloody way tone.
I just dont get it. We're not mega celebrities but we're carrying another human being. Maybe I was brought up decently but I would always give up my seat, hold doors open and be polite to anyone older etc. But definitely to an expectant mother.
Some ppl are horrid. Good thanks to all the nice people in this world. xxx
Cant say I expect to queue jump or anything I just expect basic manners, I was at the Theatre last night and this snotty nosed woman was too self rightous to move her legs out for the way for people to walk down the isle, she deliberatly made it hard for the girls I was with to walk past so when it was my turn I said 'excuse me' in a very loud voice and thurst my tummy at her - she jumped in the air and couldn't apologise enough - I found it quite amusing 
I can't stand when people fuss over me like telling me to sit down while they scrap the ice (or in tonight/tomorrows case snow) off my car - I'm pregnant not made of glass.
I don't do a lot of exercise so that is my morning & evening work out!
I can't stand when people fuss over me like telling me to sit down while they scrap the ice (or in tonight/tomorrows case snow) off my car - I'm pregnant not made of glass.
I don't do a lot of exercise so that is my morning & evening work out! HollyHobby
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I was quite surprised whilst in Mothercare yesterday actually as the lift was out of order and I needed to go to the 2nd floor so hubby and I had to carry our daughter in her buggy up two flights of stairs as several men stood around and watched. If I wasnt pregnant and saw a pregnant lady struggling to carry her buggy upstairs I would offer to help her. Its quite obvious I'm pregnant too, my bump is noticeable
It might make you sad but it's naive to expect a lot of special treatment TBH 
One thing I insist on is a seat on the bus/train. Not cause I'm more tired but I worry about a bump bashing if we crash. I've not had cause to have to ask but I wouldn't hesitate. I bet if put on the spot a lot of commuters would offer. Speak up and you'll more than likely get (if you do it nicely
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My bump's massive but when people are bundled up in winter coats no-one takes notice anyway really. WE are constantly aware we're pregnant and it's a big deal but when it's cold and busy you just can't expect others to be observant. I've worried in the past about offering a seat to a woman who might just have a big belly. YOU might know your is a bump but they don't know you from Adam. It's only in third tri when women look ready to drop that a bump can't be overlooked!
Just my thoughts. I know some people are rude but I genuinely have faith in human nature and the majority. If we're all saying here we'd help out preggo women then people must be mpre helpful than we imagine
One thing I insist on is a seat on the bus/train. Not cause I'm more tired but I worry about a bump bashing if we crash. I've not had cause to have to ask but I wouldn't hesitate. I bet if put on the spot a lot of commuters would offer. Speak up and you'll more than likely get (if you do it nicely
)My bump's massive but when people are bundled up in winter coats no-one takes notice anyway really. WE are constantly aware we're pregnant and it's a big deal but when it's cold and busy you just can't expect others to be observant. I've worried in the past about offering a seat to a woman who might just have a big belly. YOU might know your is a bump but they don't know you from Adam. It's only in third tri when women look ready to drop that a bump can't be overlooked!
Just my thoughts. I know some people are rude but I genuinely have faith in human nature and the majority. If we're all saying here we'd help out preggo women then people must be mpre helpful than we imagine
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Honey - sorry, but NEVER!
Unfortunately, people don't think of others any more and it's getting worse. During my last pregnancy I had to stand in the gap between two coaches on a train all the way down from Dublin (about 2 hours) at about 7 months and I was BIG. None of the men or teenage boys (most of whom were dashing up and down to the bar anyway) offered me a seat despite my obviously frazzled condition.
I try to coach the kids in school to stand back and let a grown up through a door first, and (God help me) I also try to get the boys to stand back for the girls. I actually get laughed at for that one!
But I drew the line the other day when the same little blackguard who kicked a football straight at me out in the yard actually planted his elbow in my bump trying to get through the door before me! I FROZE him with a shout and made him stand outside the door while everyone else went in before him! Oh I wasn't popular at all!
As my Dad used to say, Blessed are they who expect nothing, for they shall never be disappointed.
Sue
Unfortunately, people don't think of others any more and it's getting worse. During my last pregnancy I had to stand in the gap between two coaches on a train all the way down from Dublin (about 2 hours) at about 7 months and I was BIG. None of the men or teenage boys (most of whom were dashing up and down to the bar anyway) offered me a seat despite my obviously frazzled condition.
I try to coach the kids in school to stand back and let a grown up through a door first, and (God help me) I also try to get the boys to stand back for the girls. I actually get laughed at for that one!
But I drew the line the other day when the same little blackguard who kicked a football straight at me out in the yard actually planted his elbow in my bump trying to get through the door before me! I FROZE him with a shout and made him stand outside the door while everyone else went in before him! Oh I wasn't popular at all!
As my Dad used to say, Blessed are they who expect nothing, for they shall never be disappointed.
Sue
I've been a bit wary about offering a seat since I asked a lady with a bump the size of a football if she wanted mine, and she announced very loudly "I'm NOT pregnant, you know!" 
Everyone in the carriage was sniggering and I was mortified. If that had been me, I'd have just said thank you very much and sat down fast...
The other night I was asked to give up my seat on the bus by another pregnant woman. She wasn't very pregnant - showing a bit, but making the most of it, and obviously on her way to a night out. WWYD? I'm now 17w, but still wearing pre-pg jeans, so I know I don't look properly pg. I was probably further along than she was (not meant in a rude way, but what I mean was that you'd do a double-take before offering a seat, as you wouldn't be sure - she wasn't about to pop or anything). And I was knackered - it was 9pm and I'd just finished teaching the evening class, on top of my daytime classes. I did get up, because I didn't know how not to, without being rude. Fortunately a bloke looked at me and said "you look even more tired, take my seat" - which was so sweet. I was so grateful I nearly cried, and just told him I was 4m pregnant as I thanked him. There are some nice people out there, honest, and he didn't even know I was pg!
But honestly, what would you do if you were asked for your seat by another pregnant woman? (assuming she's around the same stage, not one who's obviously due in the next four weeks, when there's no contest!)
Everyone in the carriage was sniggering and I was mortified. If that had been me, I'd have just said thank you very much and sat down fast...The other night I was asked to give up my seat on the bus by another pregnant woman. She wasn't very pregnant - showing a bit, but making the most of it, and obviously on her way to a night out. WWYD? I'm now 17w, but still wearing pre-pg jeans, so I know I don't look properly pg. I was probably further along than she was (not meant in a rude way, but what I mean was that you'd do a double-take before offering a seat, as you wouldn't be sure - she wasn't about to pop or anything). And I was knackered - it was 9pm and I'd just finished teaching the evening class, on top of my daytime classes. I did get up, because I didn't know how not to, without being rude. Fortunately a bloke looked at me and said "you look even more tired, take my seat" - which was so sweet. I was so grateful I nearly cried, and just told him I was 4m pregnant as I thanked him. There are some nice people out there, honest, and he didn't even know I was pg!
But honestly, what would you do if you were asked for your seat by another pregnant woman? (assuming she's around the same stage, not one who's obviously due in the next four weeks, when there's no contest!)
I think people these days generally are quite rude and inconsiderate. I'm very protective of my bump whn I'm out, especially in the supermarket 'cause people really don't care who and where they bash with their trollies! I would hold a door open for anyone walking out behind me, I think manners cost nothing! Not been on any public transport since being pregnant so I have no idea if anyone would give up their seat for me, but I bet they probably wouldn't!
I've always been told since being small that I should stand for pregnant ladies or ladies with buggies and loads of shopping bags. What really gets my back up is when people blatantly watch a girl with about 23 bags on her pram handles trying to shimmy her way through a narrow bus. People don't bloody help either they all just sit there sighing because she's taking so long!!
I felt very guilty for a long while once when I was on a bus and a young pregnant girl got on, it was summer time so she was obviously pregnant and her bump was pretty well exposed, you couldn't miss it. There were loads of people sitting around me and I'd stood for about 25 minutes before I could snaffle a seat!
I was thinking to myself whether I should ask did she want my seat, and I was thinking 'what if she's not pregnant?' and really beating myself up about it, in the end as I went to offer her my seat, she got off the bus. I really annoyed myself but at least I know in future that I'll offer my seat. I always worry a lady will say something like 'I do have legs, you know!' and I'll be humiliated in front of a load of people. I beat myself up about it a lot really!
I felt very guilty for a long while once when I was on a bus and a young pregnant girl got on, it was summer time so she was obviously pregnant and her bump was pretty well exposed, you couldn't miss it. There were loads of people sitting around me and I'd stood for about 25 minutes before I could snaffle a seat!
I was thinking to myself whether I should ask did she want my seat, and I was thinking 'what if she's not pregnant?' and really beating myself up about it, in the end as I went to offer her my seat, she got off the bus. I really annoyed myself but at least I know in future that I'll offer my seat. I always worry a lady will say something like 'I do have legs, you know!' and I'll be humiliated in front of a load of people. I beat myself up about it a lot really!
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I don't expect nothing off strangers!
But my friends/family all treat me like I'm glass and its annoying
But my friends/family all treat me like I'm glass and its annoying
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We were at ashford the other week and its like a park and ride thing now my bump is quite big and i asked a woman at what bus stop the nxt bus was from and she told me she wasnt sure which was fair enough and told me that if it was at the one further along i would have to run for it
people aint like they use to be i still to this day if i saw a pregnant woman would help
people aint like they use to be i still to this day if i saw a pregnant woman would help
Well I'm due on Thurs & still waiting on the special treatment. My bump is def noticable, because I get a lot of stares but still get pushed out of the way in shops and people barge past me all the time. I don't really think it matters to people anymore.
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I have to say I am getting special treatment from my mates. They now come to me, rather than taking it in turns to go to each other's houses. I went shopping yesterday and I didn't carry any shopping bags. I am not obviously pregnant to get special treatment from strangers, but would hope people would give up their seat for me on the train. And if my feet ached I would ask politely if I could sit down.
