10 month-old love me more than his mum?

[bwakeling]

Hi all,

We have a gorgeous 10 month-old son, and the highlight of my day is getting home from work - he goes mental, starts laughing, gets all excited...it's great!

Lately he's been really clingy to me: he cries when I'm not there, he stops crying as soon as I pick him up, all he says is 'da-da'. This is great for me, but my wife is getting pretty upset about it, and beginning to wonder whether my son loves her at all!

I keep telling her it's because she's with them all day and I'm a novelty, as I'm out most of the day at work. It's a different kind of love.

Has this happened to you? Is there anything I/we can do to help my wife feel happier? I love the attention I'm getting from my son but don't like seeing my wife super-miffed.

Ta

Ben xx

 

[kiki]

My little boy used to be like that (and still is a little bit to be honest) as I have stayed at home and he is almost 2 now. He knows that I never leave him for that long where as his dad leaves him to go to work every day. He probably still doesn't even fully realise that she is not a part of him and just fully trusts that she is always there.

And I have to say that everytime my boy hurt himself or was frightened of something I was the only person that could comfort him. Don't think love has anything to do with it. But I know it can be very frustrating!!

 

[midnight]

we are in the same situation only i was the 1 that went out to work so my dh did everything for our ds and now he rarly wants me to do anything for him it can be heartbreaking when he falls and prefers daddy to me im used to my kids being all mummy so with him its harder to deal with but i get the good bits i get to be silly mummy and my dh gets the crying part but this only happens when me and my dh are together if its just me then he will come to me for everything without a problem

 

[Zazu]

My OH is working away at the moment, and when he comes home at the weekend, zac just wants him for everything, I don't get a look in! It's just cos he misses u, if your wife was away all day, he would be the same with her xx

 

[scaredmum2be]

I left my 9 month old with his daddy today an he was crying an moaning since id be gone. Id only been gone for like an hour tops and hubby said he didnt know what was wrong with him but i think its cos im used to taking him everywhere i go where as daddy doesnt and also dadda was his first word an yeah it upset me i do everything with the child more than daddy does an that comes out with is dadda :L annoying.
He gets prob cutie smiles from LO where as i think cos Tristan is with me alot of the time he just gives me a big grin in the morning which makes all the difference but im tryin to teach him to say Mama so then i feel like that im with him all the time and that he like knows who i am. Although think OH getting fed up of the word Dadda cos thats all that comes out of LO's mouth every day quite often lol. I cant wait for him to say mama. Chin up gal wait until he learns mama an for the next 18 years it will be like mum can i have this or mum can i do that hehe x

 

[Pudds86]

remind her da da is easier to say than ma ma!! Bless her, I would feel pretty upset too but the girls are right, its just because she is with him all day. xx

 

[Rosie's Mummy]

Give your wife your credit card and send her shopping for the WHOLE day. Then when she comes home after 8+ hours you can guarantee that baby will want mummy! That oughta put things right! Bonza!

 

[FebMum2Be]

My LO was the same, he's the same with other members of the family too, I was a little bit upset to begin with, but he sees me all day everyday so it's understandable that he gets excited when he sees a new face.. The credit card would definitely cheer me up Good luck x

 

[emmaandamyleigh]

Yeah Amy is the same she's with me 24/7 but when she sees daddy or anyone else she's all for them especially dady as she only sees him about 3 times a week possibly more sometimes unless he stops over on his days off. But if she hurts herself she comes tO me she's always ful of smiles and hardly ever crys too she stopped with dady for a few hours other day and cried her heart out she's not used to being left with oh she was fine when I walked in but he was a bit upset that he couldn't calm Amy down bless him x

 

[Zazu]

Give your wife your credit card and send her shopping for the WHOLE day. Then when she comes home after 8+ hours you can guarantee that baby will want mummy! That oughta put things right! Bonza!

Loving this idea! X

 

[Rayoflight]

Blake is the same and is only 4 months! as soon as Shaun is home he blanks me!